Some places have “family rest rooms” you could safely do that. I totally get that. My mom would wander into the bathroom when I was fixing food and some how make a turd on the floor. If I didn’t notice I would step in it. Yuck. Some times she would manage to make one roll down her pants leg... then track it all over the house. Some times she would head for the bathroom and drop her pants and miss the toilet then sit on it.... But usually she would do it in her pants and not notice. I had to be there at the ready all the time. Messy...
I know what you mean about getting home care coming in and snooping around. Toward the end I couldn’t bathe her very well alone so we had an aid come in a couple times a week. Great big woman... The aid had all kinds of nifty tricks. A couple years back we had an aid for just a couple weeks before we let her go, but I learned what I needed to know for the time.
Do the dentist thing but talk to them about having some kind of help with her while you are in the chair. Moms go with small children and the staff gladly helps. I totally understand. Tomorrow I go see if a tooth I let go needs a root cannel. It should have been an easy fix at the time.
Choose your battles... some places have grocery pick up or they deliver. I hate it but it might be a good thing for you right now. Shopping on line is not the same as going to a store but you don’t have to go out. At Christmas time my daughter and I took a couple kids and Mom to a museum. It was all pretty for Christmas. Some have family restrooms call ahead. We didn’t try to see the whole museum. Mom loved getting out and seeing the decorations.
A lot of people at the pool have knee and hip problems and the water exercise is good.. Our pool has a family changing or handicap changing room. I wish I could have just taken mom to to the Y just for showers but most of the time showers were impromptu... or Sunday morning. The home tub was very hard for her to climb in and out of. My Y pass comes from my insurance.
It sounds like you are doing everything you know to do. It seemed to help me to look beyond Mom’s care. But what I was looking at wasn’t anything my husband wanted in his life. He did go along with some of my ideas just to appease me. Sadly disappointing and threw me into having to reinvent my whole life all over again. I’m still working on it.
I know what you mean about getting home care coming in and snooping around. Toward the end I couldn’t bathe her very well alone so we had an aid come in a couple times a week. Great big woman... The aid had all kinds of nifty tricks. A couple years back we had an aid for just a couple weeks before we let her go, but I learned what I needed to know for the time.
Do the dentist thing but talk to them about having some kind of help with her while you are in the chair. Moms go with small children and the staff gladly helps. I totally understand. Tomorrow I go see if a tooth I let go needs a root cannel. It should have been an easy fix at the time.
Choose your battles... some places have grocery pick up or they deliver. I hate it but it might be a good thing for you right now. Shopping on line is not the same as going to a store but you don’t have to go out. At Christmas time my daughter and I took a couple kids and Mom to a museum. It was all pretty for Christmas. Some have family restrooms call ahead. We didn’t try to see the whole museum. Mom loved getting out and seeing the decorations.
A lot of people at the pool have knee and hip problems and the water exercise is good.. Our pool has a family changing or handicap changing room. I wish I could have just taken mom to to the Y just for showers but most of the time showers were impromptu... or Sunday morning. The home tub was very hard for her to climb in and out of. My Y pass comes from my insurance.
It sounds like you are doing everything you know to do. It seemed to help me to look beyond Mom’s care. But what I was looking at wasn’t anything my husband wanted in his life. He did go along with some of my ideas just to appease me. Sadly disappointing and threw me into having to reinvent my whole life all over again. I’m still working on it.
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