"No more talking about the homeless"

[Scott7022]

Being creative, some of you have seen my morning hair, I know the effects of stress have on the creative mind. At times the only way to get out of a situation is to be creative, to take a page from another book. The one you've been using doesn't work or isn't working now and to continue to follow the instructions is the very definition of stupid. Doing the same thing and expecting different results.

The problem is while this is happening stress is happening. Cortisol is coursing through your veins and into your brain, swelling joints and shutting down higher brain function. The higher creative part. People move into a hyper stress state and that new level became the new normal. It only gets worse from here as the bodies autonomic systems try to adapt and increase the hormonal responses to compensate for additional stressors and biologically help you adapt.

This constant fight or flight state is uncomfortable and not how we were designed. Sometimes a little nip of brandy helps quell the swell and in extreme cases, it takes stronger medication. Prescribed or not Prescribed by a physician

A very smart friend of mine was in the same place. He was my security and driver in the Republic of Georgia. There is no work in Georgia and if you are x military it is worse. I laid out a plan for him to start and run a tour company for well-off American adventure tourists that liked wine and exotic travel. It wasn't a spark of brilliance or some easter egg like gift from a more brilliant entrepreneur. It was a simple idea from a brain not severely affected by stress. It worked and he is very successful now and I have a friend for life. It wasn't just the ability it was working without a handicap.

Sometimes the worse disabilities are the invisible ones. How cruel would someone be telling a paraplegic to just walk up the stupid stairs and quit making excuses! Picture that in a shopping mall. A cripple lying at the bottom of an escalator and someone telling them to just stand up, that they didn't even have to walk after standing!

The problem with perspective is if you haven't walked the mile you don't know what the mile is like.

[Texjbird]

When you criminalize something you incentivize snuggling

Jewellann  sez  I don't know what this is^^^            ^^^^^^^^ This 'un I know
                                                                                                I vote for snuggling

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[Ballenxj]

When you criminalize something you incentivize snuggling

Jewellann  sez  I don't know what this is^^^            ^^^^^^^^ This 'un I know
                                                                                                I vote for snuggling

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 Or in this case auto incorrect quoting?

[Heidi Mull]

YOU'VE BEEN ADOPTED!!!  You're their new mommy! 

Congratulations! 

This biting sarcasm is a big reason why so many homeless and severely disabled folks take their own life, or let themselves die.

I used to be in an online community of very self-sufficient people. Many there would state, repeatedly, emphatically, that they'd rather die than accept charity. I think a significant factor to that thinking is how much the need for help is stigmatized, by people like you who mock and blame.

I don't like accepting help either, but I spent 8 years of my life prior to living on the streets almost completely bedridden and with such severe neurological issues I often could not remember I was hungry long enough to request food, or remember the beginning of your sentence by the time you reached the end of it. I was incapable of handling any administrative duties in my life including finances, any phone calls, or any paperwork. I saw dozens of doctors and specialists each year and by about the 3rd year was given absolutely no hope of recovery.

This began when I was 16 years old. I was independent as all get-out, completed a semester in college with a 4.0 gpa despite missing the last 2 weeks entirely due to illness. Then I had a friend carry me around campus and I'd lay down on the floor during classes. But then I became too ill even for that, and I couldn't drop out of my own classes because I couldn't even remember the names of my friends, let alone my teachers.

I was facing the prospect of being heavily dependent on caregivers for the rest of my life. Though, it's worth noting the suffering was worse than the disablement.

Attitudes like yours result in a culture where people feel like if they need a lot of help, then they're worthless. I had to find my way to learning that's not the case.

I hope you do too.

[technomadness]

Maybe there's another word for what you mean when you say opportunity? What's a word that is, opportunity without chance due to one's perseverance. Does that make sense?

Yeah the word is Opportunity:

Miriam Webster’s FIRST definition:
“a favorable juncture of circumstances eg: the halt provided an opportunity for rest and refreshment”

There are no guarantees in life. Perseverance is what means you make it even when some opportunities fall thru.

Talking about luck is just a way of rejecting responsibility— everyone has lucky opportunities, everyone has unlucky circumstances they have to deal with.

So long as we don’t slip into full communism, there will be plenty of opportunities to pursue.


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[Wabbit]

When I look up the word favorable in the Merriam dictionary and read the definition intended here, it seems to get into circular reasoning. A circle jerk of words. I believe that people do the best they can with what they have. I am not talking about just materialistic possessions, I am also talking about where they came from and what they might possibly hold to be truth in their heads. If that makes sense. I try to help others because of gratitude. If I didn't feel gratitude(to others) for where I am in life right now, I don't think I would have the understanding that I feel I have today.

Take care.

[Everyroadleadshome]

I've always had the assumption life was never meant to be easy. In nature, it's a constant kill or be killed struggle for survival. As humans it basically still is, except we've more or less replaced the work of finding food and shelter for survival with working for money to instead buy that same food and shelter for survival. We've just traded one for the other but the basic needs of survival haven't changed.

In nature there are the strong ones, the weak ones, the sick ones, etc. None of that has changed for us humans, so the ability to work for money for food and shelter is affected by those traits just as those same traits affect animals in the wild in regards to their ability to provide themselves with the same.

Is anyone owed anything from others that they can not provide for themselves? That is an answer I do not know, but if you look to nature for your answer the answer is no. That being said I help others whenever I can whether it be shoveling out an elderly neighbor or helping someone catch up on some bills.

In my own personal life I've experienced a little bit of everything, I've owned businesses, houses, boats, cars, and i've been bankrupt and almost homeless. I've been the definition of healthy and i've been so sick I couldn't get out of bed for five years and couldn't walk across a room with out crutches. The one thing i've learned from all this is if you never give up you'll likely make it through. Perseverance is a powerful tool and as humans probably the most powerful one we have. It can get you through mental, physical, and financial obstacles. And when it's the end it's the end, nature always wins.

Those are my outta the box views on life anyways.

[Heidi Mull]

Is anyone owed anything from others that they can not provide for themselves?  That is an answer I do not know, but if you look to nature for your answer the answer is no.  That being said I help others whenever I can whether it be shoveling out an elderly neighbor or helping someone catch up on some bills.

All I know is no one deserves scorn. (Which, I know isn't your thing!) Even if they cannot provide for themselves. Or even if the only way they can think to provide for themselves is panhandling or sex work or begging off of friends and family. Heck my parents impoverished themselves on my medical bills for YEARS before I finally convinced them to help me apply for SSI (I was unable to on my own at the time.)

I never felt I was owed anything. All I knew was I wanted to live. So I grabbed at whatever resources might help me do that, and tried to live in a way that was the least amount of burden to others possible.

I learned early on that if someone is helping out of obligation or pity, it's gonna turn sour for both of us, so best to not go down that road. Instead, I sought to build connections where help was a secondary factor, and used as sparingly as possible. I clearly remember days I'd hang out with friends for a good time and didn't mention I had no food to eat for that day or the next. I feared it might "use up" the willingness to help me, and then I wouldn't have someone to call during the days I really needed it, like when it was a hot summer's day and my hands weren't working well enough to lift a bottle of water to my lips.

[OutdoorFT]

Id like to point out.. Suicide is done people with or without money.

[TrainChaser]

Yes, but the reasons are usually different. Most suicides are from the low end of the totem pole.